Regarding the multi meter. I have one. Confirm test the 2 heater lugs and to test when the spa is calling for heat with the light solid and not flickering.
The spa is 8 years new. I was thinking of just swapping out the whole control box/heating element. The Cal Spa site wants $750 for just the circuit board. I have found a few sites that sell the whole BP box/heater for around $540. I know I can do a complete swap just going 1 for 1 on the plugs and confirming the dip switches.
For example here is a place that sells the whole unit for $567
https://www.hottuboutpost.com/cal-spas-pack-ele09002057-csbp501-csbp501x/
You are correct on the "slightly", I would not trust my skills to change a relay on the board.