Well here is the deal. Unplugged blower=box still charged
blower 2=box still cgarged
cireculator pump, ozoneator, heater element, and lights
Still power on the GFCI box. Also noted that even with all componets disconnected, my "balboa control box/brain" has a charge on it. Willing to bet that the entire control box has a short on the board somewhere. I have been on the phone with Balboa Water Systems over the past few days and they are pretty sure it's the the miswired GFCI and 3 wire not the 4 wire lead. Even when I told him about the scenerio above he still is sure it's the GFCI.
So with that info, I did have another electrician (licenced) come over and look at this system. He is confident that the previous guy was trying to kill me and bang my wife after the insurance money came in Seriously speaking now, I have been reading the posts here and on another site and I appreciate all your observations and comments. In a nutshell the spa is wired with only 3 wires.....it's a 4 wire spa. He said there is no proper ground. So tomorrow 9/23 I'm getting a new 4 wire lead and a new GFCI with a 50 amp square D breaker. So we'll see what happens. I'll post back with the results.
For the record, this was wired by an actual union electrician who was licenced in MA. I live in RI and he was not licenced here though I understand from everyone that this is a "basic" job that he should have been able to figure out.