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“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” This quote from Eleanor Roosevelt is particularly helpful to consider as many of us find ourselves posting our resumes yet again because—despite the pervasive impact of today’s “retracting” economy—it can be easy to think it’s somehow your fault that you’ve re-entered the job market: to beat yourself up thinking, “If only I had done X,” or “If only I hadn’t said Y.” The trouble with this is that this sense of personal failure has the potential to influence the way you begin to think about your former situation, making it still more difficult to talk about how and why you were let go. With this in mind, then, let’s look at some language you can use to ensure you end up on offense instead of defense. The Foul Weather Friend Response You’ve all heard the term, “fair weather friend,” to describe the person who’s always around when the sun is shining and the seas are calm. Unfortunately, foul weather friends also exist—people who miraculously show up in your life the day your divorce papers are delivered, when you find yourself in the emergency room, or during the planning of your parent’s funeral, but are somehow never free to come to your holiday party, your child’s graduation, or your anniversary celebration. These psychic vampires generally open with, “What happened?” not “What can I do?” as their ultimate goal is not your well being, but instead detail-collecting in an effort to make themselves feel better about what’s going on in their lives, and the boost of self-importance they get from being “there for you.” You will also find they have time to spread your story far and wide. wow gold For this particular category I recommend keeping your explanation short and sweet. “Well, we got divorced.” Or, “Well, I got laid off.” That’s it. Further detail is unnecessary. Should they follow up with an, “Oh, I’m so sorry. Did you see it coming?” all you need to say is, ‘Thank you. Yes. (Or no) I appreciate your concern.” They are not entitled to more. The Potential Employer Response Obviously things become somewhat more complex when a potential employer asks about the reason behind your changed status. wow power leveling That said, I continue to recommend keeping the particulars of your situation to a minimum, and instead making a broader statement about the state of your industry, “Yes, a number of people in my area were also let go due to downsizing. world of warcraft power leveling As you know, my sector was hard-hit due to X, Y, Z” Or, “Yes, an inability to raise our third round of funding necessitated some cuts all around. As you know, venture capital is thin on the ground in this economy.” should suffice. Then use that as a springboard for talking about what you learned from the experience, and how you plan to apply that knowledge to your new position. “What I’ve discovered is that tackling challenges outside my comfort zone actually inspires me—I like a sharp learning curve. This is one of the primary reasons I came in to talk to you. I very much admire the diversified, hands-on approach you ask of your employees.” Or, “What I learned is the value of a good fundraiser, so that’s where I’ve put my energy in the intervening months—very few people look bored when you mention you know how to raise money. With regard to how I might raise money for you, I was thinking of X, Y, Z.”

Everybody needs a little time away … Even lovers need a holiday, far away from each other.—Lyrics from “Hard to Say I’m Sorry,” by Chicago Going separate ways as a couple is often read as a prelude to separation (which has its own pressures), but it doesn’t have to be. In fact, many experts agree that taking separate vacations as a couple, within certain guidelines, can actually help to enhance the relationship and allow each partner to keep it in perspective. There are rules for making separate vacations work, however. Ruth Peters, who has written extensively on family dynamics and is a contributor to the Today show on NBC, believes that separate vacations should be an addition to our lives, not an escape. Remember, too, that one size does not fit all. Many couples consider separate vacations vital to their relationship’s success, whereas others wouldn’t dream of enjoying themselves apart. You and your partner might have no interest in the idea, but if taking separate vacations sounds like it might work for you, consider these tips to maximize pleasure and minimize guilt. wow gold Keep Communication Lines Open Agree about the ground rules for communication before you leave on your trip. Schedule a set time to check in and assure your partner that you’re okay, tell him that you miss him, and fill him in on what you’re doing while you’re away. You don’t have to give him an itemized list—this is about your individuality, after all—but you should provide just enough details to make him feel like he’s in the loop and on your mind. If this is the first time you’re proposing to fly solo, make sure your partner understands your reasons for doing so. If he or she expresses fears of infidelity or dissatisfaction with the relationship on your part, then you might consider spending your vacation money on couples counseling instead; partnerships are built on trust and that trust should be strong enough to weather periods when you’re not in each other’s physical space. “A successful monogamous relationship shouldn’t mean giving up who you are or your independent activities,” says Dr. Peters. “A successful marriage or monogamous relationship does entail the willingness to make some sacrifices in order to accommodate the other person.” Tell your partner that you just need some time for yourself and encourage him to do the same. Listen to his concerns and help him understand that your decision has nothing to do with the relationship. You’re not separating yourself from him; you’re just trying to schedule some quality time with an old friend—yourself. $peaking of $pending ... wow gold In the current economic climate, most families have trouble eking out just one vacation a year, let alone one per partner. Be realistic about how you can allocate resources for your time away. Will your partner be able to do the same? Can you take money from somewhere else in your budget to help pay for your trip? Can you find some alone time in a way that is less expensive? For example, could you spend one day at a spa rather than a weeklong cruise? Also consider setting up separate savings accounts for your separate vacations. That way, you and your partner each have the responsibility of paying for your own trips and you can avoid some of the resentment that inevitably arises when one of you is sipping Mai Tais on the beach in Malibu while the other is working.

Dieting. Personally, I suck at it, as do many people throughout the world. But it doesn’t mean we don’t try. Of course, some of us try to eat less and exercise more and some people jump on the bandwagon of any fad diets, always hoping to find a miracle that leads to quick weight loss with little effort. As a result, there’s been quite a few crazy *** ideas in the last few centuries, here are the top ten weirdest *** methods we’ve ever heard of. The Chewing *** The chewing *** was popularized in the Edwardian Era by Horace Fletcher. He believed that chewing allowed food to be properly absorbed into the body. Insufficient chewing would lead to constipation and clog up the digestive tract, said Fletcher. He lost 40 pounds in just four months using the *** he created. Dr. Kellogg was a friend and fan of Fletcher and he required patients at his sanatorium to participate in the chewing *** as well as a variety of other weight loss methods. To properly implement the chewing ***, a person must chew each bite over 32 times, which takes approximately 30 seconds. After chewing is done, the person then tilts his or her head back and allows the food to trickle down their throat. Anything that is still too big to swallow must be spit out. The desire to eat things likely diminishes after a period on this ***, so it does work as you begin to eat less food. Possible Side Effects May Include: A sore jaw. Much longer meal times. Annoyed and disgusted friends. The Tapeworm *** If you eat for two and aren’t pregnant, maybe it’s time to get a second mouth in your belly. A tapeworm can sure help eat all of that excess food. Around the turn of the century, these little parasites were sold in a simple pill form claiming to help you shed inches from your waist. It’s uncertain whether these pills actually had live tapeworms or if they were just another “snake oil” product, but what is certain is that people have intentionally used tapeworms as a weight loss method. Jockeys are amongst the many people purported to have used tapeworms as a ***. wow power leveling Possible Side Effects May Include: Well for one, having a worm inside your stomach, which might cause nausea, headaches, infections and diarrhea. Some people’s organs are blocked by the eggs and this can result in death. There is no evidence that tapeworms actually help people lose much of weight, so the whole experience may be for nothing. The Sleeping Beauty *** You can’t eat while you sleep. So naturally, if you sedate yourself for days and neglect to eat as a result, this starvation *** may actually work for you. Elvis was a proponent of this weight loss method around the end of his life and the dieting method was also made popular in Valley of the Dolls. World of warcraft Power Leveling Possible Side Effects May Include: A severe pill hangover can leave you with a headache, nausea and fatigue. Additionally, improper sedation might actually kill you and so might starvation. The Vision *** wow gold If your food looks disgusting, you’re less likely to eat it. While this is certainly true, it’s not enough to make the vision-dieter glasses any less silly. From the testimonials I’ve read, the glasses make you feel relaxed while going on your day to day routine, but they don’t help you lose much weight. Johnny Depp is a big fan of blue glasses, although it’s hard to say if he just likes their look or if he actually feels the effects from the lens color. Possible Side Effects May Include: Looking like a geek in big blue glasses. Possible vision problems after prolonged exposure to the glasses. Washing Away The Pounds World of warcraft gold World of warcraft Power Leveling[/url] If you’re showering everyday, you might as well lose weight while doing it, right? That’s the theory behind Aoqili *** soaps. These soaps contain seaweed that will penetrate skin and breakdown fat. There seems to be no evidence that this product works though, not even faked testimonials. Possible Side Effects May Include: Some people have had allergic reactions to the soap’s ingredients. Ear Stapling