Thank you for all your help so far. I did a little more investigating and if I pull water from the pool, run it through the filter (DE filter with 8 screens in a circular pattern, and return to the pool, the pool loses no water. Sometimes a little air comes out the return lie. However the spa will lose water , a few inches per night, and it will stop draining once it hits a lever of about 4-5 inches of water left in the spa.
I will avoid that snake oil stop leak stuff though and I guess I'll need a professional to help me?