Hi Jrspa,
I will try to answer based on the info I have learned here on this forum and my experience... anyone feel free to correct me!
It sounds like your TA is high compared to your water CH. So because your TA is higher than necessary, when you aerate, it raises your pH.
A TA of 80 is a guideline for starters and will be relative to your water hardness(CH). The higher the hardness, the lower the TA will likely need to be.
For instance, on my 450 gal tub, with my CH at 150, my pH is not stable until I drop down to around 55-60ppm TA. Any higher than that, and my pH climbs everytime I use the jets/blower. This is without using borates.
Basically I check my CH, check my TA, and then check my pH. If I run the jets/blower for 30 minutes and the pH climbs, I add a little acid and try again, checking only pH. Once my pH stays stable after adding the right amount of acid, I stop and check my TA again and record it.
Once I find the sweet spot, my pH seems to stay pretty stable.
I have now started using borates in the form of 'ProTeam Gentle Spa'. This is supposed to prevent pH rise from aeration, and make the water feel 'nicer.'
Maybe I will be able to have a higher TA and maintain my pH now that I am using 'Gentle Spa'..
Good Luck!